The Real definition of Hell…

Over the centuries, men have waxed loquaciously about Hell…in Greek mythology Hades ruled the Underworld, which was a foul, scary place. Dante’s Inferno outlined the medieval belief of nine circles of suffering that was Hell.Satan, the angel who tragically fell from heaven in John Milton’s Paradise Lost uttered the now famous lines, “Better to reign in Hell, than to serve in Heaven”. Similarly we have all heard many times that war is hell, and that Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned.

These various definitions and versions of Hell may focus on the horrendous and thoroughly nasty aspects men imagine to be Hell, yet they all fall sadly short.

No, Hell occurs one week every month when my daughter the Demon Child has her period and I have menopausal symptoms (which for me is 24/7).  I figure that my husband plans his out-of-country business trips around these times, since he is never home when the fireworks start. My son has escaped to Ontario where he claims to go to university – of course he’s not just there for the parties and the girls. The dogs cower in the deepest, darkest part of the basement.

For example, last week when I asked the Demon Child who she was going to a concert with, (I had bought and paid for 4 tickets after all) she started yelling and screaming; she insisted she told me WAY too many times, and refused to tell me again.(She had in fact told me a couple of times, but each time she told me different names – what’s with that!?) In the next breath she demanded that I make her a snack immediately, hand over her allowance, and help her with her project (which of course she left to the last possible moment.)

Me: If you want anything from me, you’d better be nice and talk to me appropriately. I may have been a tiny bit more forceful than this, and I may have raised my voice a wee bit.

Her, with eyes flashing, teeth gnashing, and mouth foaming: You’re my mother. It’s your job to help me. After all YOU don’t work. Besides, you yell at me all the time so I’m just treating you the same way you treat me. OMG – she pushed each and every one of my  buttons. 

It was all I could do not to leap across the room …I wanted to wrap my hands around her neck…I saw red…I saw stars…I saw the destruction of mankind as we know it.

BUT, I took a deep breath. The Demon Child stomped out of the kitchen and took refuge in the deep dark cave she calls her room. I KEPT MY MOUTH SHUT. Do you any idea how difficult that was??? Especially when I’m SO right and she’s SO wrong?!

However, I have finally learned that it is better to stop sooner rather than later.

It is better to pick my battles.

After all tomorrow is another day.

It still sucks though, and I am still annoyed…but I am doing my part to avert World War III. Really! So if you see me around town with my mouth taped shut, you’ll know…

I’m that menopausal mom…

with the PMS’ing teenage daughter

Just don’t get in my way, or it won’t be pretty.

Really!
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6 thoughts on “The Real definition of Hell…

  1. Lord have mercy, I remember this time well. I was in menopause with two teenage daughters. They are now 27 and 29 and have dubbed that period “the meaniepause.” What was God thinking? I remember chanting a disengagement sentence as if it were a magic spell: “DETACH, DETACH. . .DO NOT ENGAGE, DO NOT ENGAGE. . .PICK YOUR BATTLES, PICK YOUR BATTLES. . .WALK AWAY MOMMIE, WALK AWAY! Sigh! I’ll pray for you 🙂

    I love that you’re a writer in the midst of this. I didn’t become a writer until they were all gone, including the dog (I kept the hubbie). I read your “About Me” and we are in similar places as writers (manuscript done, edited and proofed, and waiting or a publisher to love it). I wish you all the best with your writing career. Cheers! Keep chanting…
    http://www.howthehelldidienduphere.wordpress.com

  2. Such good advice – PICK YOUR BATTLES, DETACH, DO NOT ENGAGE – I manage to do this about 50% of the time. The rest, of course, isn’t pretty.

    Thanks for the kind words – we writers need to encourage each other on! Right now I’m in the waiting stage…and am waiting and waiting…

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