It can be really tough for anyone to buy a holiday present for that special someone, but especially this year for my son, the Obnoxious One. The pressure is on him to choose something wonderful for his girlfriend that doesn’t cost an arm and a leg.
Last Christmas they’d just been dating for a couple of months, so he (actually moi) bought her Coach perfume.
The hardest part was trying to figure out how to sign the card. From? With affection and LUST? (He was 17 after all) Or with love?
A huge minefield – in the end he signed it “with affection”, and then she didn’t even give him a card. The smart girl skirted the issue completely! Let me tell you, we teased the Obnoxious One mercilessly over that one.
This year the dilemma is extremely complicated because:
- she is an only child who has everything, absolutely everything
- for Valentine’s day he took her out for a very nice dinner downtown and bought her pink roses
- for her birthday he gave her a beautiful sterling silver cuff
- at the end of July the Obnoxious One broke up with her – not because he didn’t like her anymore, but because they were both heading off to university far from home, and he thought they should meet other people – see You did what?!
- sometime during the past month or two the Obnoxious One and this girl got back together, but obviously they have a history; he can’t just buy her a t-shirt and call it a day
- the Obnoxious One will have to face her parents when they come home – Ha, there is justice in this world. I can hardly wait!
So, what to do? First step was to call his mommy. He was determined to get her jewellery and in particular a necklace. We had a discussion about various options and price range, etc., etc. As the Obnoxious One is an internet shopper extraordinaire, he directed me to a couple of sites, net-a-porter.com and dealuxe.ca. (Yes, he does have good taste – especially with my money!) His over-riding concern was that he send her the right message – i.e. that he is NOT going to cheat on her during the boys’ trip he’s planned for reading week in February.
So, the plot thickens…Clearly he assumes that they will still be together in February( three months is forever to a teenager after all). Clearly he cares about her feelings since he wants to placate her (usually he just doesn’t care). It must REALLY be affection/lust/love!
I can hardly wait to see the two of them together again.
But, as these things go, it’s never ALL clear sailing. More tomorrow…